Jill Duggar’s husband Derick Dillard told fans that the reason members of their family marry so young and so quickly is because they’re in a hurry to have sex.
On Tuesday, Jill’s younger brother Justin announced his engagement to 19-year-old Claire Spivey from Texas, revealing the news just a day after he turned 18.
When a commenter on 29-year-old Jill’s Instagram asked why they — meaning the Duggars — ‘rush to marry,’ Derick, 31, offered a surprisingly frank answer: ‘Because we want to have sex.’
Hot and bothered! Jill Duggar’s husband Derick Dillard told fans that the reason members of their family marry so young and so quickly is because they’re in a hurry to have sex
In a hurry! He shared the blunt reason when an Instagram commenter remarked on how young Jill’s brother Justin — who just announced his engagement — is
What’s that hand signal supposed to mean? Jill replied to Derick’s comment with emojis showing her agreement
Justin’s engagement wasn’t a shock to those who pay close attention to the Duggars: He and Claire had announced just months before that they were courting, their term for ‘dating with a purpose,’ and Duggar courtships tend to turn into engagements pretty quickly.
But it hasn’t stopped some critics from saying that they’re too young and should spend more time being kids before getting married and having babies of their own.
One such commenter shared her opinion on Jill’s Instagram post, writing: ‘Amazingly surprised that your brother is 17 [sic] and engaged!!! Why do you guys rush to marry life [sic]. He’s a kid and Claire too!!!’
Derick, who has earned a reputation for sharing blunt truths and opinions that would likely scandalize Jill’s parents, was quick to reply, saying quite plainly that they do so because they want to have sex.
The Duggars — along with evangelical Christians in general — believe that sex is only occur between a husband and wife.
High-school-of-the-dining-room-table sweethearts! The day after her turned 18, Justin announced that he is engaged to 19-year-old Claire Spivey from Texas
Happy for them: Jill congratulate her little brother on Instagram
While Derick’s answer shocked other commenters — many of whom laughed at his frankness — Jill’s reply was perhaps more outside the norm.
Though she didn’t explicitly confirm what Derick said, she did reply with a tongue-out smiley face emoji and an OK hand sign.
Jill and Derick have shown a willingness to discuss sex — marital sex, that is — quite a lot in the past couple of years.
Even today, Jill was on Instagram promoting a relationship app that includes sex tips and advice.
‘Ok, I might be blushing a little here, but so excited to finally get to share with y’all!!’ Jill wrote.
‘Y’all know how we love to support healthy marriages!! I recently came across this AMAZING app called Intimately Us.
‘It’s a fun and sexy app for your marriage with fun bedroom games & tons of ideas to make intimacy and sex in your relationship fun and alive! Keeping our marriage strong and passionate is a priority for us, even in amidst the chaos of life!
Duggars can be raunchy, too! Jill also took to Instagram today to promote a relationship app with sex tips
Can’t stop, won’t stop: She said the app has ‘sexy bedroom games,’ among other draws
‘We’ve been using this app for about a month and have LOVED it!’ she said. ‘Some of my favorites are the bedroom games that are clean and fun!’
Only for the marrieds! The Intimately Us app offers ‘nudity-free’ sex content for couples
‘We’ve been using this app for about a month and have LOVED it!’ she went on. ‘Some of my favorites are the bedroom games that are clean and fun!’
She went on to offer a giveaway to followers, and further promoted the app and its ‘bedroom games for sexy fun.’
Derick also shared the promotion on his own page.
This isn’t even the first time that Jill has run a sponsored post for sex games. In 2019, she promoted The Dating Divas’ book ‘Year of Sexy Date Nights,’ encouraging couples — with rings on their fingers, naturally — to play games like Word Play Foreplay, Naughty Pictionary, and Strip Never Have I Ever in order to keep things spicy in the bedroom.
She shared a link and pictures while gushing that it includes ‘such fun spouse date games.’
The libidinous mother-of-two added that she was ‘so excited’ to get hers in the mail, presumably so she and Derick could enjoy some raunchy naked fun of their own as soon as possible.
Jim Bob, shield your eyes! This isn’t even the first time that Jill has run a sponsored post for sex games
Look ma, I like sex games! In 2019, she promoted The Dating Divas’ book ‘Year of Sexy Date Nights’
Getting experimental: The book is filled with ‘bedroom games and sexy activities’
Legs shut until the wedding: Jill only believes in sex within a marriage, and she did specify that the games are fun for one’s ‘spouse’
The $45 book includes 12 sexy games that couples can play — and a quick overview of their names makes it clear why Jill, who saved nearly all physical contact including front-facing hugs for her husband, thinks its for married couples only.
Earlier that year, she and Derick also celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary with a trip to romance hotspot Branson, Missouri, where Jill posted a snap of a sex game and a copy of ‘The Little Black Book of Kama Sutra — which they had neatly placed on the same table as the Bible.
The Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian Sanskrit text, is considered one of the most famous books about erotic love. It includes passages on topics including foreplay, group sex, homosexual sex acts, adultery, prostitution, and ways to please a lover.
Next to the book on the table was also a ‘Bedroom Edition’ of an intimacy game from the Dating Divas, with a visible card reading ‘Sweet Seduction.’
Jill didn’t mention the Kama Sutra in her caption, rather letting it speak for itself, but she did point out the game.
Later, she edited the caption to add: ‘We are not recommending the Kama Sutra. We believe marriage is ordained by God and husbands and wives should filter everything they read and hear together through the lense of the Bible and not practice anything unbiblical.
Hot, steamy Duggar sex! Last year, she also shared a photo of a Kama Sutra book on her anniversary
Oops! She later amended her Instagram post with this note
‘The little book pictured is a modern, smaller, cleaner, edited version that doesn’t focus on spiritual aspects, homosexual, or other extramarital relationships, and again, we don’t take everything in there either as the truth.
‘It is always good to be aware and careful of what we allow into our minds, hearts and marriages. We’ve not read the actual Kama Sutra and only promote biblical marriage (i.e. between a man and woman who are married).’
She and Derick have also both shared their sex and relationship advice on their blog.
‘Have sex often!’ Jill wrote. ‘You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol).’
Sometimes, she admitted, it’s not possible to have sex at least every other day, and referenced possible health issues. Though she didn’t name any specifics, Jill did go undergo C-sections with both of her sons, four-year-old Israel and one-year-old Samuel.
Family planning: The couple has two children, a five-year-old named Israel and a two-year-old named Samuel
‘And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate,’ she said. ‘Let your spouse know that you’re a;ways available.’
Referencing masturbation, she added: ‘Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone.’
‘Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! (Philippians 2:3-4; 1 Corinthians 7:5),’ she went on.
‘If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!’
The sex talk didn’t end there, either.
Jill also advised that wives ‘get new lingerie (online is an easy way to buy!) as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!’ and go to bed ‘fresh’.
Christian copulation: Jill and Derick have also both shared their sex and marriage advice with fans
‘Showering in the evening (and sometimes before he gets home if you arrive home before him!), and even putting on fragrant lotion in front of him can be another way to say “I care” and “you’re important to me,” and lets him know you’re up for fun whenever he is,’ she wrote.
Jill is also clearly ‘up for fun’ the moment her husband walks through the door — and suggests that wives ‘run’ to their husbands when they get home ‘like you may have done when you were first dating.’
‘And if the kids are gone, have fun with it! Be crazy with your hubby!’ she added.
Derick, meanwhile, said: ‘Have lots of good sex! You both need this time together regularly (5-6 times (or more) a week is a good start).’
He went on: ‘Guys, you need to keep yourself “joyfully available” for your wife, because only you can fulfill certain desires she might have.
‘And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate. Let your spouse know that you’re always available,’ he went on.
He echoed a previous post by Jill, warning others to ‘guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone’ — meaning, not to masturbate.
‘Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting!’ he said.
His post — which shared his recipe for ‘hot love’ — also including tips like being humble and honest, praying, encouraging each other, abstaining from gossip and name calling, and showing PDA.
The couple also revealed in a YouTube Q&A that they use birth control, a departure from Jill’s parents’ teachings.
‘Yes, we use birth control,’ Jill said, ‘but we prefer to use non-hormonal birth control methods, just because we don’t want to use anything that could potentially cause an abortion.’
Surprise! Recently, Jill and Derick confirmed that they use non-hormonal birth control, though her parents, Jim Bob and Michelle, are outspokenly against birth control
It is a myth that the Pill can cause abortion, since it works to prevent an egg from being fertilized in the first place. In cases where women do become unintentionally pregnant while on the Pill, the fetus can be exposed to high levels of progestin and/or estrogen, but neither causes abortion — and research indicates that it won’t negatively impact the fetus, either.
‘There are probably uses for hormonal methods of birth control for, like, regulating things, and stuff like that. But for us, we just want to be careful about that, and we’re just, like, more natural-minded,’ she said.
‘I know that sometimes there can be more longer-lasting effects from hormonal birth controls and stuff like that. So we just steer clear of those… Eventually, we want to have more kids and stuff. We’re willing. So we don’t want to mess too much with all that,’ she said.
Derick added that they also want to be able to easily stop birth control whenever they want to get pregnant.